Tuesday, May 20, 2014

“Hater’s Gonna Hate”

If you are on any social media you have heard this statement. Or maybe you were walking down a hallway in school or even on the street and you heard it.

I’ve heard (read) it several times and realize that there really are people who hate but  the only times I’ve heard it – or  had it directed towards me, I didn’t have hate in my heart or even in my mind. I just happened to make a statement that was disagreed with.

I Googled “Haters gonna hate.” This is what I found:

“A phrase used to acknowledge individual superiority in the face of negative external accusations. Can be repeated twice for emphasis. Often accompanied by a strutting walk away by the offended party.”

Making a statement or verbalizing a belief that you don’t agree with doesn’t mean I’m making “negative external accusation” – it just means we don’t agree.

When did it become such a horrible thing for people to disagree with one another?

Actually, let me reword that – it’s horrible if a conservative Christian says something that isn’t “politically correct” or that is in disagreement with those of other faith or no faith.

If, in my belief system, I don’t agree with you, all of a sudden I’ve been labeled a “hater.”

This offends me. My belief system teaches me to love not hate.

A meme I saw on pinterest

I have a friend, Debbie S, who often says, “if you agree on everything - one of you is lying.”  This is so true. I don’t expect everyone to agree with me – but I don’t expect to have to agree with others on everything to be kept from being called a “hater” either.


  1. I completely agree. When you love someone, and there are things you disagree about, you either steer clear of those topics or you agree to discuss them calmly for a short amount of time, to clarify misconceptions only, and then put them aside. If we only talked or listened to people we are in complete agreement with we would be forever alone and lonely.

    1. Amen and Amen. You are so right. - and BORED...